So much of the things we do, or do not do, at age 40 and 50 is the result of a lifetime of experiences and relationships.
You know, your own experience.
At the age of 40, I was a happily married mother of two. I started out happily married too, but we didn’t have sex on our wedding day. I also had an affair I didn’t tell anyone about. At the age of 50, I was happily divorced. I had an affair that I didn’t tell anyone about. I had an affair that may have been my first and second extramarital affair.
I bet you have to have some of the same sex experiences yourself at both points in your life. The question is, which ones? It’s probably not very surprising that the things we’re most attracted to can be the very things that drive us to cheat.
The thing is if we compare the number of extramarital affairs in the world to the number of first and second marriages, we have to take into account that the number of people who have affairs in general is much lower than the number of people who have only one. This is a problem because one of the most common reasons for divorce is the cheating.
The number of extramarital affairs in the world is around the half of 1st marriages, but the percentage of people who cheat is still way higher. So while one in every two people have affairs, the vast majority of people cheat. It is not a good idea to think that everyone who cheats is a sex addict.
Of course it is. A lot of these people think they are doing this just to have sex and are not really doing it for any other reason. The fact is that sex is an incredible, rewarding drug for many. It is not uncommon for people to have sex with themselves, their spouses, their children, their friends, their in-laws, and their pets.
Not everyone who cheats is a sex addict though. Even people who are cheaters don’t think they are. People who cheat have a very limited definition of “sex.” For them, sex is all about sex. For example, while my wife, daughter, and I are “hooking up” we don’t actually do it. We are merely having sex.
But even with many people having sex with themselves, they still aren’t all sex addicts. Some people are just sex addicts because they have a physical addiction that keeps them in the moment. For example, I once used to have sex with myself on a daily basis, but I dont think I was a sex addict. I was just a sex addict in the moment but I didnt know it.
For this type of sex addiction, which can be seen as a more extreme version of the above, there is another option. This would be a sex addiction that isnt about a person having sex with themselves. This type of sex addiction refers to a person who has an intense desire to have sex with someone else, but they dont know how to get there.